I know my sister is stealing from me, but she – Latest News
DEAR ABBY: I’m having a downside with my sister, who visits me on the average of as soon as a month. She lives 4 hours away. Her good friend and her husband accompany her. They are my solely company. I used to get pleasure from them but no longer. After their visits, stuff is all the time lacking from my home — a hairbrush, my canine’s electric nail file, random dishes and plates, rat traps, laundry detergent packets, greenback store craft objects, and so forth.
Abby, I hid the laundry detergent packets, but she discovered them, and I knew she took them. When I confronted her, she angrily denied it and insisted I was accusing her of issues she by no means did and would by no means do. When I instructed her in regards to the beads, she stated she by no means noticed them and didn’t know what I was speaking about.
After that, I didn’t see her for about three months. We made up, and she did it again! Her husband is aware of. I set a lure for her good friend beforehand, and she didn’t steal something. My sister was bringing her soiled laundry along with her to wash at my home so as to save on her water and electric invoice. I put a stop to that. What can I do about her? — DISAPPEARING ACT IN NEW MEXICO
DEAR DISAPPEARING ACT: Assuming that the good friend who all the time accompanies your sister during these visits is within the clear, that leaves solely “Sissy.” Has she all the time been light-fingered, or is her pilfering one thing current? If it is current, speak along with her husband and inform him you’re anxious about her.
Suggest she be neurologically examined by her physician for indicators of dementia or another brain-related sickness. If she checks out, there is one other situation referred to as kleptomania, by which victims can not resist the urge to steal. It is fixable provided that they’re prepared to confess there is a downside and resolve to do one thing about it.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are in a quandary. Our 12-year-old granddaughter celebrated her birthday earlier this yr. It was a large celebration. Her different grandparents gave her a selection of $100 or an in a single day keep at a lodge with a pool. She selected the in a single day. It has been a number of months now, with no lodge keep scheduled. Her different grands reside full, busy and chaotic lives. Our granddaughter instructed me she feels harm, disillusioned and a bit indignant. We had a good speak, and I really feel she now higher understands how adults typically overlook how shortly time passes.
In the meantime, my husband and I want to slip a $100 invoice underneath her pillow and perhaps assuage her emotions towards her different grandparents. We need to know if that will be a clever factor to do or if we should always let or not it’s. We perceive it isn’t our downside, but it hurts our hearts to see her let down after patiently ready for her birthday current. What do you counsel? — GRANDMA KNOWS BEST
DEAR GRANDMA: You are beautiful people, and I perceive your impulse to cowl for the opposite grandparents. That stated, I don’t suppose it is best to do it. Your granddaughter is rightfully disillusioned, but she must study that typically of us don’t comply with via on their guarantees. If she does, it might come as much less of a jolt when she’s a little older.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
